Friday, 26 January 2018

Stop trying to be like everyone else

One of my affirmations is proudly saying that I am my own person. I am unique.  Not in a big headed way, but in the sense where I am truly myself. No-one is like me because how can they be. Only I can be me. 

When I was growing up I had a variety of friends. We were always in competition with each other, even though we would never admit it. We would dress the same, act the same and pretty much do the same things. But we were never actually friends. I didn't know the meaning of true friendship until I was myself. I now surround myself with people who love and accept me for me. 

I think this is a common thing when you're a teenager. The need to conform and feel 'normal' or 'cool'. Now, looking back I couldn't have been more wrong. By conforming I lost the greatest thing about myself. ME. 

I lost who I was because I thought to fit in, to be seen as cool would be to follow everyone else. 

It's a huge failure really. They don't teach you in school or college the importance of loving who you are. They don't compliment uniqueness and individuality. 

In fact, I'm not sure I was ever taught these important life skills. The system is failing because relevant knowledge isn't being taught or shared when we are younger. For instance, I think learning how to save money, understanding mental health, appropriate sex education and learning to appreciate yourself would be more relevant and useful then some of the lessons they teach in school. 

I came to learn more about myself when I went to university. I realised that I didn't need to be like other people. I'm perfectly fine just as I am. 

That doesn't mean that people don't inspire me. I have aspirations and I do look up to people who have made an impact on my life or have achieved something that I too would like to achieve one day. However, I will make my own impact one day but it will be my way. 

This enlightenment has changed my mind-set completely. I now understand what drives me, what makes me special and how I can use that to have a positive influence on others and be successful. 

The truth is, until you learn who you are, how can anyone really get to know you? How can anyone see your great qualities and awesomeness? They can't. 

So stop trying to be like everyone else and just be you. 

Friday, 19 January 2018

Harry Potter and the Cursed Child

You’ve no doubt heard and read so much about the Harry Potter and the Cursed Child play. It was the talk of the year when it launched, and even now, people are flocking to go and see the play. Myself included in those people.

I purchased my tickets in November 2016. I finally watched the show on 17 January 2018. They were so hard to get – I think I waited in the online queue for 6 hours just to secure the tickets. I purchased them as a surprised for my brother Ryan and I decided to finally surprise him with them this year on his 24th Birthday. Keeping it secret has never been so hard.

On the day:
We arrived into London at 11:45AM the first show wasn’t until 2PM but we had to go and collect the tickets from the box office. We went from London Waterloo so we had to jump on the tube - Northern line to Tottenham Court Road.

It was easy to find, 5 minute walk from the tube station. There is a number of food courts surrounding the theatre so you would never be stuck for options.

We collected our tickets early and then went to grab a bite to eat. We had to be back at the theatre one hour prior to the show starting to be searched by security. They advised on the website that you’re not allowed food or drink but you’re in fact allowed to take sweets and water. We made the mistake of buying in the theatre and it cost a ridiculous amount of money.

Part one:
The first show is 2 hours and 35 minutes. There is a 20 minute interval mid way through and then it's back to the action. I wasn't sure what I was expecting. I can't say I have been to that many theatre productions. I've watched the Harry Potter films hundreds of times and when the production first started I can honestly say I was a little bit taken aback. I think I was expecting more. Of course the show is never going to be the same as the movies and that's definitely something you need to bear in mind. However, after about 10 minutes into the show you can really see the detail and hard work that has gone into creating such an amazing production. It's not as high-tech but there are some real magical moments (pardon the pun).

Part two: 
The second part of the show started at 19:30 and lasted 2 hours 30 minutes. It's action packed and full of great surprises. We were sat in the Grand circle and I think for elements of the production, if we were sat closer to the stage we would have been even more excited because there are some amazing things that happen. Although, our view was pretty great.

If you're going to see the show, I would recommend not reading the script. Myself and Ryan have both got the book but haven't read it yet and the surprised in store were so exciting. 

Overall, I would definitely recommend seeing the show. I laughed, felt sad and even a little on edge at times. You definitely get all the feels and the cast did an exceptional job. 
It's a long day and if you're travelling a long distance, be sure to book a hotel close by because we travelled home late and it was exhausting. I know that there is also an option to watch part two on a different day on part one. This isn't something we wanted to do as travelling into London can be expensive so we chose to watch the entire production in one sitting rather than split the days. Do what's best for you.

Friday, 12 January 2018

Reflection and understanding personal space

I'm not sure if this blog is going to make an ounce of sense but I have felt the urge to write it for the last week. I wanted to discuss the importance of personal space. 

The term 'Personal Space' in the dictionary refers to the physical space immediately surrounding someone, into which encroachment can feel threatening or uncomfortable. 

Although the general definition discusses physical space, I also think personal space can now take many forms. Not only is it physical - in the sense where it's someone in your face, but it's also digital and for me it's a mental state as well. The reason that I am writing this is because lately, I have been struggling with this issue. 

I am a friendly and a somewhat social person. As a YouTuber and Blogger I have allowed myself to be on social platforms where I share certain aspects of my life. Yes, this is a personal choice and for the most part I absolutely love it. However, by doing this, it has opened up the door to people who do not consider the importance of backing off at times or knowing when to give me space. 

I think many people struggle with this but cannot formulate the right words to express how they are feeling. Which is also why I wanted to write this piece. To tell you that it's okay. 

It's not selfish to want personal time. It's not selfish to want people to leave you alone so you can just have 5 minutes of silence to re-energise. I'm not sure if it's a lack of awareness or understanding but for me people need to learn when enough is enough. When they need to back off and be respectful of someone else and their personal space and you have every right to tell them. 

There are times where we all like to be in our own little bubble where we can find peace and reflect. We all need our own time and that's okay.

There are a number of ways I take time to reflect. Whether that's having time to myself or being with Gary. He is like my anchor. He is the only person a part from my dad who can calm me. His presence is just relaxing. I think everyone needs someone like that, who can just make you forget your situation even for 10 minutes to help you to re-balance. I also like to take time away from my phone and people in general. It's not to be rude but it's just to take a break from everything. It really does help. 

I rarely get stressed or bothered by these sorts of things, but lately I have. Getting space has helped me to cope and focus. If you're ever feeling like things are getting too much, be sure to reach out to people who you know have got your back. who will help you to get back up and carry on. 
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